“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave uno his wife; and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24) It is maybe one of the most misunderstanding commandment given to the man. I would have liked to learn more about this subject when I was a newlywed because I was very cleaved to my mother. I wanted that my husband could be like my brothers; of course those were hard moments. It is difficult to stay between your mother and you husband. I think that the great problem is not in our parents or brothers and sisters, but in us as wife who does not understand the doctrine of marriage and the commandment to cleave to our husband and none one else.

President Spencer W. Kimball taught, “Frequently, people continue to cleave unto their mothers and their fathers, and their chums. Sometimes, mothers will not relinquish the hold they have had upon their children, and husbands as well as wives return to their mothers and fathers to obtain advice and counsel and to confide, whereas cleaving should be to the wife in most things, and all intimacies should be kept in great secrecy and privacy from others… Your married life should become independent of her folks and his folks. You love them more than ever, you cherish their counsel, you appreciate their association, but you live your own lives, being governed by your decisions, by your own prayerful considerations after you have received the counsel from those who should give it (Spencer W. Kimball, March 1977 Ensign, pp. 4, 5).

Well-meaning relatives have broken up many a home. Numerous divorces are attributable to the interference of parents who thought they were only protecting their loved children… Live your own life (President Spencer W. Kimball, Marriage, p. 17).

I was very sorry with my husband because in the beginning of our marriage sometimes the influence of my mother and brothers were more important than my husband. Fortunately, he was very patience with me. I could change and turned toward my husband. The understanding of the doctrine of marriage, and the atonement of Jesus Christ  were the keys to become one in my marriage. I love my husband and enjoy to spent time with him more than with any other person in this life, even my relatives.

I promise to teach this doctrine to my children, so they can understand the commandment, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave uno his wife; and they shall be one flesh.” I hope to be a good example for them about how to become one in marriage.